The bill for the betrayal itself

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Счёт за предательство себя

Author: Panina Irina

The disappointment starts with the betrayal of myself. At the moment when the selected position of the victim and starts the whole procedure execution. Sometimes it lasts a lifetime, sometimes just one day. Sometimes, only one moment.

Here you go for “dinner” instead of having to sit with a favorite book. Yes, the book is good, and it’s bad weather. But… as it is inconvenient, it would be necessary to go. And the book’s not going anywhere. And you’re going. “Puffing” himself dear.
That is not running away anywhere, but not to read. It has been postponed for a long time because you’re changing and changing to another pastime.

You think, no, expect that bringing such a sacrifice, will receive something of value at a dinner party. And that the host of the party will appreciate your gesture, and in General, you’re filled with expectations and … more claims to the host. Of course! You’ve overcome your reluctance, and all for… for what, I wonder?
At dinner it turns out that none of those present did not make the effort to come here. Moreover, all the drum, whether you’re at a party.

What? About this: “And I, I put aside all things, and in return?” And you “kill” all others for their decision to have a party because you’re bored, because you got wet in the rain instead of looking at the rain from the window sill under the rustle of book pages. And so on until the end of time, and live with a soul offense.

Or are you “punishing” yourself for a choice, and it may be more constructive solution, since the penalty itself may end to-night or even evening, if you have enough moral strength to say Hello to everybody and after the official part of the dinner, ran to the windowsill to his book. That is, to get out of the victim role and stop trying to sacrifice yourself and expect rewards for it.

Alternatively, events can be on the chopping block for much longer.
“And I gave birth to you, suffered, and you….” . Do not remind this passage the situation when I wanted to read the book, but had supper, or rather to give birth?
In both cases, as if acting under duress. And, therefore, you are betraying yourself, your interests. And full of hatred for “forced”. You made…. Yes?

Счёт за предательство себя 

Who’s forcing you to act against your will and desire? It is they, these people, you’re getting this “account”. The bill for the betrayal itself.

Going to “they”pay him? Where there is… “the world is so unfair, for all I try, and no respect in return, not to mention the gratitude”.
At the same time as you forget what you’ve set priorities, “stepping on the throat” of their own desires.

How to get out of the victim role and we should do it?

Whether it is necessary? From my point of view, the rejection of the position of the victim’s healthy, because all the anger that accumulated inside under the yoke of compulsion, takes the lion’s share of your vitality and promotes blood pressure.
In addition, the desire to “punish” the culprits of your discomfort is usually carried out in your own body.

How to abandon position of the victim.

To take responsibility for their decision, whatever it was. In the case of dinner, if that’s important to establish social ties, to go and don’t regret about the book, understanding the purpose of your choice. If you do-don’t want to stay home and watch the rain through the glass.

Of course, in the case of “birth”, the decision to have it, was made long ago, but certainly not a child.
Do what meets your true desires. Be in harmony with their conscience. Carry the responsibility (pay) for their choices voluntarily, otherwise you will be required to sacrifice under duress.

Счёт за предательство себя

 

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